tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post7366242748336613537..comments2023-09-30T11:58:07.453-04:00Comments on The Frugal Duchess: Recovering My Frugal Groove: Telling My Daughter the Truth about Her New 'Friend,' The Salesclerk!Frugal Duchesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00505138013388396364noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-87390292644849139892008-08-29T19:25:00.000-04:002008-08-29T19:25:00.000-04:00Sharon,I, too, think that you handled this perfect...Sharon,<BR/>I, too, think that you handled this perfectly. It's very possible that the salesgirl did like your daughter -- who WOULDN'T like a cute 10-year-old? But her job is to be friendly in order to get people in the store and get them to buy stuff.<BR/>Better your daughter should learn this now, before she's old enough to get a credit card...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-37136308893575265132008-08-25T23:22:00.000-04:002008-08-25T23:22:00.000-04:00Hey KT:Your insights are appreciated.Thanks for br...Hey KT:<BR/><BR/>Your insights are appreciated.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for breaking down the different types of bonuses & perks.<BR/><BR/>Take Care!<BR/>sharonFrugal Duchesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00505138013388396364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-51398195219453141962008-08-25T22:52:00.000-04:002008-08-25T22:52:00.000-04:00Sales associates can indeed make commision on item...Sales associates can indeed make commision on items other than shoes. It all depends upon which store you are talking about.<BR/><BR/>And if no commission is involved there are usually sales goals (quotas) one has to meet to keep one's job or at least number of weekly hours. Also sometimes prizes are involved instead of commissions. <BR/><BR/>You handled it just right in my opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-86063820313680905752008-08-22T19:07:00.000-04:002008-08-22T19:07:00.000-04:00The lesson is that people can be friendly and even...The lesson is that people can be friendly and even charming and not necessarily be your friend - There was no harm in acknowledging a friendly salesgirl - there are too many snooty ones and freshed-faced enthusiasm should be encouraged - but she is acting in her salesgirl capacity - which you should make clear to your daughter -Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-87955561121000952822008-08-21T17:36:00.000-04:002008-08-21T17:36:00.000-04:00Honestly, salesclerks in stores DO NOT make commis...Honestly, salesclerks in stores DO NOT make commission unless they work in shoes. Clothing stores do not pay commission to people that sell tshirts and skirts. So, I think that while it was good to tell your daughter that the girl wasn't her friend -- you also have to look at the sales clerk and realize she's probably just a nice girl that likes to help out tweens because she is probably bored out of her mind. Seriously, I used to work at a clothing store and if you never help customers it's pretty boring.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-30123141253550745382008-08-20T16:11:00.000-04:002008-08-20T16:11:00.000-04:00I think you did the right thing.I think a lot of p...I think you did the right thing.<BR/>I think a lot of people haven't learnt this lesson and end up overspending because the salesperson has been so nice to them. I read about this is in a marketing book where the concept was called reciprocity.Chauceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05486356835594497343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-83158428227650577442008-08-20T13:29:00.000-04:002008-08-20T13:29:00.000-04:00I think your actions and explanation to your daugh...I think your actions and explanation to your daughter were dead on accurate.<BR/><BR/>Even as adults we get caught up in slick marketing and advertising. Buy this and you will look like me, use that and your life will be wonderful.<BR/><BR/>The cute 'tween clerk was overtly operating the same way.<BR/><BR/>Kudos to you for recognizing it, and then taking the "teachable moment" to educate your daughter!josierosie65https://www.blogger.com/profile/05217749762113847929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-21035016881444343232008-08-20T13:09:00.000-04:002008-08-20T13:09:00.000-04:00A great story and a great lesson in being a savvy ...A great story and a great lesson in being a savvy consumer for your daughter. I own a store for tweens (boys and girls), and it was interesting for me to hear the emphasis the salespeople there put on showering the kids with attention. Our customer service is mostly geared to the parents. Any kind of hard sell is offensive to me, but to kids? Wildly inappropriate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-3909658482424024682008-08-20T09:53:00.000-04:002008-08-20T09:53:00.000-04:00I think you absolutely did the right thing. It is...I think you absolutely did the right thing. It is a hard lesson to learn but one that is best learned early. I think you chose your words VERY well. Think of it this way - in a few years she may be talking to a car salesalesman who wants to talk her into extended warranties and all kinds of extra bells and whistles for a car. You want her to be cautious of who she gives her money to.<BR/><BR/>WELL DONE!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17209233.post-9130782047479555712008-08-20T08:29:00.000-04:002008-08-20T08:29:00.000-04:00Oh you absolutely did the right thing. It's one o...Oh you absolutely did the right thing. It's one of those life-lessons we never want our kids to experience, but an oh-so-necessary one. And who better to teach it than you to help her understand it ... instead of learning from the "school of hard knocks" later on. The more tools we give our kids when they are under are wings, makes it much easier for them to fly on their own when that time comes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com