The answer: "...times are tough, and now it's time for some tough love. Being unemployed doesn't make someone a charity." --Jeanne Fleming and Leonard Schwarz
The Ethicists argue that the friends should stop paying Amy's entertainment bills. " [T]he free lunch window closes," the columnists say, adding: "You might try softening the blow by making plans to do things together that Amy can afford right now. Netflix, anyone?"
Good advice, but I'm torn. I certainly believe in tough love, but I would recommend tough love for the all four friends. Maybe the entire quartet needs to take a time out from expensive entertainment, restaurant meals and other budget-guzzling outings.
The laid-off friend/housemate won't feel left out, and the rest of the group can put their cash into an emergency fund.
- A gallery opening. (There might be free food!)
- Sports in the park
- Covered-dish dinner party
- Free event at a bookstore, museum or library
- Board game night
- House party (DIY club night)
- Yard sale tour
- Thrift store clothing excursion
- Free classes at a craft store, hardware store or home supply chain
- Bike riding
- Sports clinic at an athletic store
- DIY home spa
- Clothing swap party
- Cooking class or wine-tasting class at Whole Foods